I was recently told by my parents that my ex’s boyfriend sent them a message on Facebook. At first, I was scared. What did he say? My kids have told me things they dislike about him, with good reason, so this worried me and them about him, so I couldn’t imagine what he was going to say to my parents. It wasn’t anything bad, but it was, you know, just odd.
He brought up our vacation, which is fine, I guess. Like I said it was odd he was saying anything to my parents at all, but then he mentioned how they were “super broke” and it all came together for us…they wanted money. Hearing this and realizing what was happening kind of made me laugh. It wasn’t at their misfortune, but more of me reminding myself why I don’t want to rush into anything.
I watched him bad mouth her after his wife found out about his affair with my ex and she was trying so hard to find someone to help pay rent. The whole situation is sad, but a good life lesson I’ve learned throughout these past few years. I’ve been through a few relationships that have lasted months, and they end with me realizing more how important it is to find someone you care about over anything else. Hell, if you plan on really being with someone you should only be with them for one reason and everything else should just be a bonus.
They want a family.
They want someone with a high paying job.
They want someone to help pay rent.
You are feeling lonely.
No, the one thing you should be thinking of is if you truly love the person. And you don’t fall in love after a few weeks or even a few months. It takes years to develop something like that. I’ve found that out the hard way and it seems most people do…and never learn from it.