When the year first started I wanted to change how my sons and I talked to each other. We all like to say we would never talk down or say something mean to family members, but that is a load of crap. I love my kids and I know they love me, but sometimes we like to say hurtful things to each other. I came up with the mean jar to put money in every time we did that and we would go get ice cream with it later on. I later realized that wasn’t the best idea since we were treating ourselves from our misdeeds.
I had heard about compliment jars and decided to make my own. I thought of a few phrases I would like my kids to say to each other or to me when things hit the fan. However, I realized the only jar I had for this was too big for their hands too small for mine. I looked around my house and found a small basket we could throw everything in. My next step was coming up with some compliments.
Now, at this point I have to admit something to all of you…or the one person reading this. I am in no way what you would call a “crafty” person. My ex-wife was good at all of this, so even coming up with the idea of doing something like this is what many people would call a miracle. Strangely enough I hated this stuff and now I like doing it. I’m even coming up with newer ideas, so I’m either gay, which one of my friends pointed out, or maybe I want to improve myself along with my surroundings. Who knows, right?
My kids though, they got on it super quick. I didn’t think they would have jumped on board with it as fast as they did. I remember my youngest accidentally kicking me in the face and I said, “You little shit” because it hurt like hell. My middle child ran into the other room and grabbed the basket right away and told me to pick something to say to him. I loved it. They have been better with their words in just a matter of days and always ask me what certain ones mean if they aren’t really grasping the gesture.
I think I want to start a series on here on the boys and I. The things we will be doing together and the fun will be having. There is a lot I want to do with them and I can see us having a blast doing it.